Changes

Change is so hard, but also so necessary for us to keep moving forward. It is hard to hear the difficult changes my daughters are experiencing and even more difficult to have no control over any of it. I hear them talk about their struggles and I automatically want to fix everything and win the fight for them, but then I have to remind myself that it is not my fight to win. My role is to listen and cheer them on. I can share my experience and what I have learned in through my own fights, but I cannot take over the battle for them. Making it through the fight loses significance when we don't have to work for it. Sometimes it seems as if they are looking to me for answers and I feel afraid that I will give them the wrong answer. Sometimes I feel panicked that I won't have any answer at all. In the end, what I hope they learn from me is that the best we can do every day is to do the next right thing, one decision at a time, one day at a time. There will be bumps and potholes in the road along the way sometimes and other times will feel like open road with no obstacles. If we manage the open road well then the bumps won't seem so big and the potholes won't seem so deep.